What’s in the name????

As always, let’s start this one off from a personal point of view .What really does my name mean to me? An identity. An all important word that allows me to exist .Or is it just a proper noun which all of us must have, coz everyone else possesses one for themselves!
Well for me is a combination of the three .But believe it or not the 13 lettered name for me has only 3 letters that I really like & the others are something with which I have to carry those 3 letters. ‘ROY’ is the part of my name which I really am obsessed with .It really gives me some pride when I’m called by that name ,its even better if I’m called Mr.Roy .But for that to be a regularity I’ve a long way to go………….

However I never blame the people who’d been instrumental in framing my name for me of course at a time, when passing on the choice to me would have been a big blunder .In Bengali ‘Suvra’ means ‘bright’ & ‘Kanta’ was a kind of legacy that was passed on. Now the first thing is why I am not too pleased with these two names .The greatest reason is the cumbersome pronunciation of the first word .Poeple just love mis-pronouncing it at their will & I’ve been so fed up that I’ve even stopped correcting them .The only way I like it these days is when the two words are pronounced together like Suvrakant (with the ‘a’ silent), I like it also coz it makes my name 12 lettered which gives a feel good appearance as 13 is the no. not many people would like to associate with themselves & nor would I .Coming on to the next part ‘ROY’,I must confess that it is the greatest gift that I’ve received in terms of a name ,maybe coz I just can’t think of a better surname than this, in any terms .Moreover Roy makes me feel royal. But the sad thing remains that hardly people call me by that name .Again I reckon that it would take some toil & establishment so as to see this happen in recent future.

There r some things about which we hardly care at times but mind it, they matter a lot .A nice & easy to pronounce name has more chances to make a person more famous than a person with a tongue twisting name .Just think about it; how many names of Chinese, Japanese or Korean leaders do u remember even if they might have been great contributors to the world .But we all remember US & English nationals by their names & surnames & nicknames & other trivial names & what not, even if they hardly had any global significance ,why? Just coz their names are easy & sexy when pronounced .

Evidently humans are more inclined to like making more friends who have euphonic names .Take for example ‘Rahul’, we all would agree that its so common a name that we(atleast I) feel sick of hearing it day in & day out .Still Shah Rukh never fails to keep this name for himself whenever he gets a chance to do so .Still whenever we come across the name ‘Rahul’ we start forming a colourful picture of the guy talked about ,even if he’s a simple ,studious book worm with round soda glasses decorating his face .On the other hand the name(with due respect to this name) ‘Rammohan Giridhari Prasad Yadhav’ would urge us to think this person as some poor rustic who’s never been into the complexities of urban life .But who knows he may be a certain college heartthrob .LOL !!!Yeah !That, only if he’s changed his name to ‘Rammo’, ‘RG’ or something even trendier.

Some people would go to any extent to prove me wrong, but even b4 u come up with ur illustrations let me warn u that, all that u r going to talk about are exceptions .Apart from that we won’t be considering changed names here .Well & aboveall whatever I’ve spoken applies most to me than anyone else .And guess what! I can’t change my name anyhow, at least until life forces me to do so .After all “What’s in the name?” is something I’ll have to believe, and maybe just one day I’d come to b counted among all the exceptions u’ve been trying to think about while reading this blog.

Signing off
Suvra(Suvrakant)

Friendship...........

As I sit down to write about friendship, it’s a big irony that this is time when I’m passing through a phase where my good old circle of friends have started weathering off & maybe a year from now we all would be away from each other .But mind it, weathering only refers to creation of physical distances among us. At least I hope that way!!.

There are a lot of people who boast of having great friends but believe me its not that easy to have a group of pals who really turn u on at all times .I have always been very lucky in this field of making good friends .Maybe coz I’ve never stressed on the quantity of friends, and quality has always been on my side automatically. Effortlessly, true friends have walked into my life with their helping hands extended for me all the time .In this span of life till now, there are very few materialistic things that I may term as achievements, its only my friends who make me feel so special even with my ordinary lifestyle .Can’t really tell though, how big a part I’ve played in their lives

No wonder u must have known by now that I’m a person with a big emotional quotient attached to me .At least I take relationships very seriously & I really thank the almighty for having given me a gang who reciprocate me likewise .I highly respect those people who are committed towards life & I must say, most of my pals do earn my respect for the same.

Something else that I also respect is the fact that difference in opinion is something that makes the world colourful & I reckon that everyone must agree to it & not fight over it .Difference in opinion in friends is something that’s bound to be there & u can call the relationship as a successful one, only when u enjoy this part thoroughly .Ideally in such a situation there’s got to be no place for pride & things like that. If not ideal our group is close enough to being ideal.

Oh! It feels like heaven to sit with friends & talk for hours together .Talk about the past,

the present & the future, both sweet & sour experiences & what not .I always believe these to be my golden moments of life, so much so, that I just can’t think of the time when I’d have no one to talk about the rosy things & of course the agonies of life .My heart really sinks when I start imagining a life full of so called friends who are mere imposters, ubiquitous in ur good times & vanishing whenever u want them to be with u.

We’ve been together for the past decade or so & some of us have been friends for 15 years now, others have been relatively new. Our roads have taken different angles, moving into youth from boyhood. We all have been keen onlookers of each others lives. We have covered a journey where each other’s presence has comforted us as nothing else could have done. But now we are moving into a different territory. How well we cope there would be the real acid test for us & I direly hope that we pass this test too with flying colours.

Can’t there be a way by which we can spend our entire life with the kind of people we want to spend it with? Can’t we have our near & dear ones with us forever? Can’t we prevent change from being the only constant thing in this world? --- These are the queries that invade my mind most often these days. But none of u need to answer me! Because I know that all these questions have a unique answer- a bitter ‘NO’. But don’t be disheartened guys, coz if the answer would have been ‘yes’ then unlike now we would have loved it to be ‘no’. Its the rule of nature, we r never satisfied with what we have with us.

Life’s taking a sharp turn & don’t stop it in doing so. May be we had been so good friends that we have never stressed upon one of the other aspects of life, making more friends who could be as good as we’d been. But now we got to move on .You never know how things unfold for you .It might seem unlikely but maybe, there are better friends in ur lives waiting for u .So all my friends & all of u who believe that they’ve had the best ever friends in their lives already, u need to rethink coz all good things are not forever & thus u got to look for new goodies all the time. Its time now to stand up & face the new life that’s going to take u head on .After all let’s see what the life has in store for us.

As far as the past is concerned ,it’ll always keep inspiring our future & I just pray that physical distances can never come in as a hindrance to our evergreen garden of friendship……………………………..just say “AMEN………”